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afagehi7 wrote: ↑

Sun Oct 03, 2021 9:51 am

BBCfan wrote: ↑

Sun Oct 03, 2021 7:21 am

My last serious relationship before wife was poly. She made a similar request to her husband concerning me and it was just a matter of time till it was completely over for them. He saw the writing on the wall and moved on.

It's likely over for you too as you're not really poly...she's decided to pursue another partner and you allowed her to and they most likely will be moving forward without you. I hope I'm wrong for your sake but I would put money on the other outcome in a betting scenario.

I feel for you but there will be someone better suited for you in the future.

I may be completely wrong as I forgot one element that is crucial. Money... Is she financially dependent on you and if so can he provide a similar lifestyle. If she is dependent on you and he can't provide similar lifestyle you're probably safe.

Why would you want her to stay if that's the reason?

4herpleasure89 wrote: ↑

Fri Oct 22, 2021 5:45 am

afagehi7 wrote: ↑

Sun Oct 03, 2021 9:51 am

BBCfan wrote: ↑

Sun Oct 03, 2021 7:21 am

My last serious relationship before wife was poly. She made a similar request to her husband concerning me and it was just a matter of time till it was completely over for them. He saw the writing on the wall and moved on.

It's likely over for you too as you're not really poly...she's decided to pursue another partner and you allowed her to and they most likely will be moving forward without you. I hope I'm wrong for your sake but I would put money on the other outcome in a betting scenario.

I feel for you but there will be someone better suited for you in the future.

I may be completely wrong as I forgot one element that is crucial. Money... Is she financially dependent on you and if so can he provide a similar lifestyle. If she is dependent on you and he can't provide similar lifestyle you're probably safe.

Why would you want her to stay if that's the reason?

Good question. I certainly wouldn’t.

Christinebitg wrote: ↑

Fri Oct 22, 2021 5:23 am

It's double talk because the comment, as originally stated by MarshaA, was a swipe at polyandry:

"I've never liked the idea of polyandry. I think that hotwifing or even swinging, can be a great way to spice up a marriage, but cutting one partner out of the deal isn't my idea of spicing things up."

ConfusedHubby65 wrote: ↑

Fri Oct 22, 2021 6:57 am

4herpleasure89 wrote: ↑

Fri Oct 22, 2021 5:45 am

afagehi7 wrote: ↑

Sun Oct 03, 2021 9:51 am

BBCfan wrote: ↑

Sun Oct 03, 2021 7:21 am

My last serious relationship before wife was poly. She made a similar request to her husband concerning me and it was just a matter of time till it was completely over for them. He saw the writing on the wall and moved on.

It's likely over for you too as you're not really poly...she's decided to pursue another partner and you allowed her to and they most likely will be moving forward without you. I hope I'm wrong for your sake but I would put money on the other outcome in a betting scenario.

I feel for you but there will be someone better suited for you in the future.

I may be completely wrong as I forgot one element that is crucial. Money... Is she financially dependent on you and if so can he provide a similar lifestyle. If she is dependent on you and he can't provide similar lifestyle you're probably safe.

Why would you want her to stay if that's the reason?

Good question. I certainly wouldn’t.

My wife is a CPA and makes a good income in her own right. Money has never been a factor.

R_H_NC wrote: ↑

Fri Oct 22, 2021 9:10 am

He might have been a bit inelegant in his wording but another way to read his comment is as it applies to this thread and the story of the OP’s marriage and not polyandry. If that was indeed what he was trying to say, he is right.

tim99uk wrote: ↑

Sun Oct 24, 2021 1:55 pm

OK. Gina is your wife and you are her husband, poly or not it does not matter. All that matters is that you both are happy with the dynamic and fuck the other guy. Sit down and discuss how things are moving forward and tell her what you are and are not prepared to deal with. This gives you both the option of moving on from the marriage if you are not getting what you want.

ConfusedHubby65 wrote: ↑

Thu Nov 04, 2021 6:03 am

Gina and I are doing much better. She’s still having sex more frequently with her boyfriend than with me, but that’s okay. When we do make love, she’s often been the one who has initiated things, and that means a lot to me. At least I’m no longer feeling replaced.

ConfusedHubby65 wrote: ↑

Thu Nov 04, 2021 6:03 am

tim99uk wrote: ↑

Sun Oct 24, 2021 1:55 pm

OK. Gina is your wife and you are her husband, poly or not it does not matter. All that matters is that you both are happy with the dynamic and fuck the other guy. Sit down and discuss how things are moving forward and tell her what you are and are not prepared to deal with. This gives you both the option of moving on from the marriage if you are not getting what you want.

Gina and I are doing much better. She’s still having sex more frequently with her boyfriend than with me, but that’s okay. When we do make love, she’s often been the one who has initiated things, and that means a lot to me. At least I’m no longer feeling replaced.

afagehi7 wrote: ↑

Sun Oct 03, 2021 12:14 pm

BBCfan wrote: ↑

Sun Oct 03, 2021 10:19 am

afagehi7 wrote: ↑

Sun Oct 03, 2021 9:51 am

BBCfan wrote: ↑

Sun Oct 03, 2021 7:21 am

I may be completely wrong as I forgot one element that is crucial. Money... Is she financially dependent on you and if so can he provide a similar lifestyle. If she is dependent on you and he can't provide similar lifestyle you're probably safe.

Exactly, but how would you know for sure? Security is a very powerful need and it would likely not be admitted?

Good point. Only thing better than a fat dick is a fat wallet. It must be engrained in women as overall they seem more concerned about the financial status of a man than men do women.

Des 31 wrote: ↑

Mon Nov 29, 2021 11:13 am

afagehi7 wrote: ↑

Sun Oct 03, 2021 12:14 pm

BBCfan wrote: ↑

Sun Oct 03, 2021 10:19 am

afagehi7 wrote: ↑

Sun Oct 03, 2021 9:51 am

Exactly, but how would you know for sure? Security is a very powerful need and it would likely not be admitted?

Good point. Only thing better than a fat dick is a fat wallet. It must be engrained in women as overall they seem more concerned about the financial status of a man than men do women.

That's an interesting point, Afagehi7 and I think largely true. I have known a few guys who married for money but more women who nailed husbands mainly for the money.

~ Des

ConfusedHubby65 wrote: ↑

Fri Oct 22, 2021 6:57 am

Squirming69 wrote: ↑

Mon Feb 21, 2022 8:08 pm

I have been married three (3) times over the past 31 Years, each marriage had various alternative lifestyle approaches.

In my first marriage, more or less we maintained an open-marriage, and in my second marriage, we were both on this forum, and we begun our marriage as a Hotwife/Stag-Cuck modeled marriage which would eventual expand into a Poly-Triad along with a Poly-V later in our relationship with another man. During the two (2) Poly types relationships that my 2nd wife and I were involved in, there was lengthy periods of time within each when she would extend intercourse exclusivity to the other man (boyfriend/lover/partner). In both cases, it was much more then a sexually exclusivity, it was fluid bonding as they developed a deeper emotional bond.

It is critical that a husband and wife maintain an intimate connection, although maintaining intimate connections does not specific require sexual intercourse. A strong marriage should not have insecurities, and should have sufficiently open communication with comprehension.

It will be interesting to see how this scenario plays out.

lookingiansa wrote: ↑

Thu Mar 10, 2022 12:12 am

Squirming69 wrote: ↑

Mon Feb 21, 2022 8:08 pm

I have been married three (3) times over the past 31 Years, each marriage had various alternative lifestyle approaches.

In my first marriage, more or less we maintained an open-marriage, and in my second marriage, we were both on this forum, and we begun our marriage as a Hotwife/Stag-Cuck modeled marriage which would eventual expand into a Poly-Triad along with a Poly-V later in our relationship with another man. During the two (2) Poly types relationships that my 2nd wife and I were involved in, there was lengthy periods of time within each when she would extend intercourse exclusivity to the other man (boyfriend/lover/partner). In both cases, it was much more then a sexually exclusivity, it was fluid bonding as they developed a deeper emotional bond.

It is critical that a husband and wife maintain an intimate connection, although maintaining intimate connections does not specific require sexual intercourse. A strong marriage should not have insecurities, and should have sufficiently open communication with comprehension.

It will be interesting to see how this scenario plays out.

Is that why the 2nd wife is an ex wife? Did you get tired of being not able to fuck her while the other guy got all the fun?

What did you and third wife do that was alternative lifestyle as well?

Mr. Lookingiansa

ConfusedHubby65 wrote: ↑

Thu Sep 30, 2021 6:13 am

. . . Has anyone had a similar situation as this? If so, how did things work out?

Des 31 wrote: ↑

Sun Jan 22, 2023 5:28 am

ConfusedHubby65 wrote: ↑

Thu Sep 30, 2021 6:13 am

. . . Has anyone had a similar situation as this? If so, how did things work out?

I have reconsidered my opinion on this since last posting...

I think I could put up with my 36-year-old wife being exclusive to another man for up to a couple of months if it were important to her, but that's never happened during the past eight years she has been dating other men. There have been a few times in which she and another guy were fucking nightly for a week or so while I slept in our guest room, and I didn't mind that.

I'm sure whether that could work would depend upon the couple's personalities, marital stability, and attitudes about how open their marriage can be. We consider our marriage to be on solid ground, with trust, understanding of the other, and good communication. For religious and moral reasons, neither of us believes in divorce with the exceptions of physical or psychological abuse, criminal activity on the part of either, or other similar extreme situations.

~ Des

ucaneffher wrote: ↑

Mon Jan 23, 2023 12:01 am

Des 31 wrote: ↑

Sun Jan 22, 2023 5:28 am

ConfusedHubby65 wrote: ↑

Thu Sep 30, 2021 6:13 am

~ Des

In my very early 20s, I managed to survive 4 months of zero pussy while the girlfriend would go out 3 to 4 nights a week with a lover who would soon become her boyfriend. I didn't get laid that entire summer and it was oddly erotic.

3 years later when approaching my mid 20s, she cut me off again but this time she was not playing. Zero pussy for 8 entire months and this time she was going out every single night 7 nights a week for 8 long months. So in total she cut me off for an entire year with two different men. Now that i am in my 30s, I believe that would be very accepting if my current gf told me that she wanted to try the lifestyle but wanted to save her pussy for her lover/boyfriend.

Now regarding the relationship surviving, i agree that there are tons of factors that dictate a relationships survival rate while playing risky games. Sending your girlfriend or wife to another man to solely pleasure her with penetrative sex is definitely playing with fire if you two aren't solid. My GF going away to live with another man (date him, fuck him, sleep with him, spend her days and nights with him) all total recipes for disaster but sometimes the kink is stronger and you dive in.

Des 31 wrote: ↑

Mon Jan 23, 2023 1:56 am

ucaneffher wrote: ↑

Mon Jan 23, 2023 12:01 am

Des 31 wrote: ↑

Sun Jan 22, 2023 5:28 am

ConfusedHubby65 wrote: ↑

Thu Sep 30, 2021 6:13 am

~ Des

In my very early 20s, I managed to survive 4 months of zero pussy while the girlfriend would go out 3 to 4 nights a week with a lover who would soon become her boyfriend. I didn't get laid that entire summer and it was oddly erotic.

3 years later when approaching my mid 20s, she cut me off again but this time she was not playing. Zero pussy for 8 entire months and this time she was going out every single night 7 nights a week for 8 long months. So in total she cut me off for an entire year with two different men. Now that i am in my 30s, I believe that would be very accepting if my current gf told me that she wanted to try the lifestyle but wanted to save her pussy for her lover/boyfriend.

Now regarding the relationship surviving, i agree that there are tons of factors that dictate a relationships survival rate while playing risky games. Sending your girlfriend or wife to another man to solely pleasure her with penetrative sex is definitely playing with fire if you two aren't solid. My GF going away to live with another man (date him, fuck him, sleep with him, spend her days and nights with him) all total recipes for disaster but sometimes the kink is stronger and you dive in.

You have admirable self-discipline. I would be jerking off every night as my wife prepped to go out. I help my wife prep for dates whenever she allows it. Little compares to the excitement I get when she is about to leave for a date.

ucaneffher wrote: ↑

Mon Jan 23, 2023 10:13 pm

Des 31 wrote: ↑

Mon Jan 23, 2023 1:56 am

ucaneffher wrote: ↑

Mon Jan 23, 2023 12:01 am

Des 31 wrote: ↑

Sun Jan 22, 2023 5:28 am

~ Des

You have admirable self-discipline. I would be jerking off every night as my wife prepped to go out. I help my wife prep for dates whenever she allows it. Little compares to the excitement I get when she is about to leave for a date.

Discipline?! Lol i said zero pussy not zero sex. We still had intimacy such as oral and cuddles. I wasn't denied seeing her nude or anything. And believe me, I definitely jerked off every single night as I watched her get dolled up for her boyfriend every night.

In the beginning i would jerk off watching her in her thong in front of the mirror getting ready and doing her makeup and let her see me cum yo her looking sexy for another man and then again when she received that phone call letting her know that he was outside, she would leave the house super dolled up and sexy with a huge smile that she would be gone for the next 5 to 8 hours.

I also used to jerk off at night when she would come home at night and tell me the details but it started with her coming home around 11pm but as this became normal, she started coming home later and later. Most often between 1 and 2am but sometimes she'd show up 3 to 4am. I would be asleep by then. The times that she showed up when I was up she would start holding details and would tease me that i was inquiring about her and her boyfriends sex life and all i would know was that he came inside several times but that's all I'd get out of her.

Oddly enough the thought ofy girlfriend or wife having another man as her primary sex partner still appeals to me and i would not discart the suggestion if she ever brought it up. My only requirement is to be included one way or another. My mental rule is that i will go as far as 90/10. 90 being her and another man while her and i get 10. The 10% is basically me being kept in the loop with details and us still being intimate from time to time to keep our connection alive.

ucaneffher wrote: ↑

Mon Jan 23, 2023 12:01 am

Des 31 wrote: ↑

Sun Jan 22, 2023 5:28 am

ConfusedHubby65 wrote: ↑

Thu Sep 30, 2021 6:13 am

. . . Has anyone had a similar situation as this? If so, how did things work out?

I have reconsidered my opinion on this since last posting...

I think I could put up with my 36-year-old wife being exclusive to another man for up to a couple of months if it were important to her, but that's never happened during the past eight years she has been dating other men. There have been a few times in which she and another guy were fucking nightly for a week or so while I slept in our guest room, and I didn't mind that.

I'm sure whether that could work would depend upon the couple's personalities, marital stability, and attitudes about how open their marriage can be. We consider our marriage to be on solid ground, with trust, understanding of the other, and good communication. For religious and moral reasons, neither of us believes in divorce with the exceptions of physical or psychological abuse, criminal activity on the part of either, or other similar extreme situations.

~ Des

In my very early 20s, I managed to survive 4 months of zero pussy while the girlfriend would go out 3 to 4 nights a week with a lover who would soon become her boyfriend. I didn't get laid that entire summer and it was oddly erotic.

3 years later when approaching my mid 20s, she cut me off again but this time she was not playing. Zero pussy for 8 entire months and this time she was going out every single night 7 nights a week for 8 long months. So in total she cut me off for an entire year with two different men. Now that i am in my 30s, I believe that would be very accepting if my current gf told me that she wanted to try the lifestyle but wanted to save her pussy for her lover/boyfriend.

Now regarding the relationship surviving, i agree that there are tons of factors that dictate a relationships survival rate while playing risky games. Sending your girlfriend or wife to another man to solely pleasure her with penetrative sex is definitely playing with fire if you two aren't solid. My GF going away to live with another man (date him, fuck him, sleep with him, spend her days and nights with him) all total recipes for disaster but sometimes the kink is stronger and you dive in.

tito123177 wrote: ↑

Thu Jan 26, 2023 9:33 am

ucaneffher wrote: ↑

Mon Jan 23, 2023 12:01 am

Des 31 wrote: ↑

Sun Jan 22, 2023 5:28 am

ConfusedHubby65 wrote: ↑

Thu Sep 30, 2021 6:13 am

. . . Has anyone had a similar situation as this? If so, how did things work out?

I have reconsidered my opinion on this since last posting...

I think I could put up with my 36-year-old wife being exclusive to another man for up to a couple of months if it were important to her, but that's never happened during the past eight years she has been dating other men. There have been a few times in which she and another guy were fucking nightly for a week or so while I slept in our guest room, and I didn't mind that.

I'm sure whether that could work would depend upon the couple's personalities, marital stability, and attitudes about how open their marriage can be. We consider our marriage to be on solid ground, with trust, understanding of the other, and good communication. For religious and moral reasons, neither of us believes in divorce with the exceptions of physical or psychological abuse, criminal activity on the part of either, or other similar extreme situations.

~ Des

In my very early 20s, I managed to survive 4 months of zero pussy while the girlfriend would go out 3 to 4 nights a week with a lover who would soon become her boyfriend. I didn't get laid that entire summer and it was oddly erotic.

3 years later when approaching my mid 20s, she cut me off again but this time she was not playing. Zero pussy for 8 entire months and this time she was going out every single night 7 nights a week for 8 long months. So in total she cut me off for an entire year with two different men. Now that i am in my 30s, I believe that would be very accepting if my current gf told me that she wanted to try the lifestyle but wanted to save her pussy for her lover/boyfriend.

Now regarding the relationship surviving, i agree that there are tons of factors that dictate a relationships survival rate while playing risky games. Sending your girlfriend or wife to another man to solely pleasure her with penetrative sex is definitely playing with fire if you two aren't solid. My GF going away to live with another man (date him, fuck him, sleep with him, spend her days and nights with him) all total recipes for disaster but sometimes the kink is stronger and you dive in.

I get the same feeling that playing more risky games excites me the most, the idea of letting my wife go to live with his lover/boyfriend for some time while they fuck bareback and he is cumming inside her makes me so fucking horny, I don't know why. Would you let your partner do that?.